As soon as my front tire hit the ramp I knew trouble was ahead. After a trip to the emergency room, a cast on my broken arm and a mangled bicycle, my initial assumptions were confirmed.
I was in 2nd grade, my mom had just left on a long over due vacation to Hawaii and this was day one staying with my grandma. The boys who lived next door were several years older and setting up a bike jump ramp in the cul-de-sac. They said I could jump it first.
Not wanting them to think I was chicken I said, um…sure...GULP!
What was behind this bad decision?
It was my fear of what these kids would think of me if I didn’t jump.
I don’t think it’s a stretch to say 90% of the things we do and especially don’t do are because we’re fearful of what others will think or say about us.
I like to use a tool I call the 5-Whys when I need to get to the core of a thought. It goes like this.
What do I want_______________________?
1. Why do I want that?__________________
2. Why do I want that?__________________
3. Why do I want that?__________________
4. Why do I want that?__________________
5. Why do I want that?__________________
By the time I get to the 5th Why, I’m a lot closer the the real emotion behind my desire.
I find it helpful to make sure my decisions support me and the person I’m striving to become, and not an underlying need of others admiration or approval.
Don’t waste anymore time worrying about the opinions of others, it will keep you from your best life. Go do you.
Do You Have Money Blocks?
Money blocks can sneak into your mind in many different forms creating mental hurdles that hold you back, usually stemming from childhood.
If your parents always argued about money your block might be “money causes trouble” so you sabotage growth opportunities. Or perhaps your college friend would lament that “all rich people are greedy” so you have guilt around earning too much.
But sometimes blocks are really sneaky as my friend Kamala found out several years ago. She shared with me how receiving a check from a business client required her to physically drive to the bank (before our convenient days of phone banking apps), she’d unbuckle her young son from his carseat, sometimes need to wake him up and then go stand in line to make a deposit.
It was sheer drudgery to deposit money into her account.
One day she recognized this weird paradigm of dread, so she changed banks to one that had a drive-thru teller. Guess what, instantly the task of depositing checks became easy.
Her results were immediate and profound! She said she began to make more money because she eliminated this check depositing block. Subconsciously it impacted how she viewed new work and it showed with more clients.
Does it sound rational? No. But we all do it more than we are aware.
This week I listened to CEO Sallie Krawcheck discuss, “What We’re Taught About Money”. It’s an important listen about our thoughts, behaviors and blocks about money.
This week at Hillside Farm
It was another bi-coastal week for me and Mike.
I spent the week in California soaking up the warm sunny days with my nieces Bowie and Harlow. Mike was busy drafting at home, as well as popping over to watch the ridiculously awesome Pumpkin Regatta in our neighboring town of Damariscotta.
I had a moment on Sunday that stuck with me, I was squeezing Harlow’s wiggly arms into her Halloween costume so we could do a photoshoot. The moment I slipped the hooded pineapple sprout onto her noggin, she instinctively started tugging at it to make it go away.
Convinced she would approve of the cuteness, I showed her costumed reflection in the mirror and she instantly smiled and stopped tugging. She was sold and owned the look for the duration of the outfit!
The lesson here is, there’s a lot to be said about not caring what others think about you, even if you look like a pineapple.
The Clouse Chronicles: Sharing
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~Mike & Megan