I had a great chat with my friend Kendall recently and she was beaming with excitement as she described the one bedroom urban apartment she and her husband will enjoy after their kids are grown and on their own. The notion of downsizing sounds heavenly and I get it, especially after two decades of sleepovers, homework strewn across the kitchen table, folding mountains of laundry and shuttling kids to weekend sports. I cheered her on because I knew she will have earned it!
The thought of downsizing for us though is not something we are aiming for. Even though Mike and I having carried the title of “empty-nesters” for many years now, we want nothing more than to finally upsize! The complicated division of divorce meant that we saw his (our) boys only for weekend visits while they were growing up. We always had the small house and our dreams of being the house where all the kids would naturally congregate never really happened.
I’ve held tight to the belief that it’s never too late to make a change.
So our Hillside Farm house, when finished, will have a whopping 3 guest bedrooms because I want our house filled with our kids (now 26 and 24), their significant others, family, friends and kids. I want to be the house with big Thanksgiving dinners and long lazy summer visits. I want to hear showers abuzz in the morning, with someone heading out to walk the property trail, and in the other room someone else settles into the sofa with a lap blanket and a new book.
I’m not going to lie, the vision of a downtown city loft also sounds amazing to me and Mike too. We’ve talked about that being something like Phase 10, someday down the road. Maybe when we’re about 70 and wanting a little more city life. If we do add a loft into our life, we’ll keep Hillside Farm close by and it will become our big happy getaway when friends and family roll into town.
After all, life is not an Either/Or. It can be all the things!